Dr. Daniel Goleman is the author of "Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships" and well known and respected for his work on the importance of having emotional and social intelligence vs. academic intelligence. Watch Dr. Daniel Goleman's video lecture on Emotional and Social Intelligence at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hoo_dIOP8k&feature=related Take the self-test on emotional intelligence at the following link EQ self-test and then comment on which of the 4 major aspects of emotional intelligence you feel is the most important to living a successful life and why.
1. Self-Awareness
2. Self-Management
3. Social Awareness
4. Relationship Management
Interesting information presented on the video regarding our brains and how biology/physiology play into our emotions. The test said I have "lightly above average EQ".
ReplyDeleteI am not sure about which is MOST important. They all seem to be involved and effect each other in living content-fully. I believe change comes first through self-awareness. But once you become aware you have to execute self-control (management) to really make those changes. However, too much "self" is not good; we need to balance with others. Life is not just about us, it involves others. So it seems that to be completely content we have to be self-aware & live with self-control as well as apply that awareness within relationships and other beings. Thus, it seems to me that social awareness and relationship management are equally important.
Also, I would like to add that success and contentment, in my opinion, can have very different ways of being understood. What defines real success? Money, professional success or true joy, peace? I think of real success defined by real contentment.
Two verses in the bible came to mind.
Paul writes...
In Philippians 4:12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
AND
In 1 Timothy 6: 6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.
The EQ test said I was slightly above average. I think all four of those aspects are important but I think social awareness is slightly more important because it's important to be aware of the problems and situations of others.
ReplyDeleteMy results: High EQ. When a person is more emotionally intelligent, they can learn and educate themselves from their environment, however, an emotion comes from within and if that individual does not have that, an emotion can not be taught or experienced. I found the video very interesting and I must agree. I feel when a person lacks or has little social awareness, it can be more difficult to be able to fit in the different environments (work, school or home). That individual could potentially experience more challenges than others. There has to be some of the 4 major aspects in order to reach some form of gratification. Of course, gratification is very different in each of us.
ReplyDeleteMy Results: Slightly Above Average
ReplyDeleteI think that all 4 play a role in living a successful life. A person needs to be well balanced or at least have all of each of the 4 to be successful. If one is severely lacking any of the 4 then it could hinder them.
My EQ results were slightly above average.
ReplyDeleteI believe all four are also necessary because they inter-relate with each other, but to choose one of the four I would choose self awareness has the most important aspect to a successful life. Understanding who you are, your emotions, your thoughts, why you do what you do or what makes you "tick" is essential to every relationship you will have, allowing you to make better decisions regarding your life.
The EQ test said I was slightly above average. I think that pretty right when I read what it says. I think relationship management is super important only because you have to build different type of relationship all the time weather it is with your partner or your bosses you have to have that in order to deal with people.
ReplyDeleteMy EQ was high. All 4 aspects must be strong, with one lacking it can cause an unbalance and make things difficult. However I believe everything begins with your self management and self awareness. When those two aspects are strong things the other two can be easier to manage. If you know there is something going on in the workplace that is sketchy and it doesn't feel right to you then you know what to do to get away from it. I believe in never compromising my values for any sort of recognition and always working together to reach the shared goals with others. I've seen many work places that lose the formality and respect they should have with one another and things are more likely to crumble.
ReplyDeleteMy EQ test said that I was slightly above average. I found the video very interesting and think that self management is the most important aspect of emotional intelligence, while I do believe them all to be important. In the video, Goleman uses the experiment between the children that refrained from eating the cookie and the children that couldn't help themselves, he later explains that the children with self control grew to be more successful adults than the children without, this is why I believe self management to be the most important. Self management is the drive within an individual, something Goleman says to be rare and independent from a person's IQ. If someone sets goals for themselves and holds themselves to a high standard, they are more likely to be aware of themselves and others while managing social relationships because they will have the end result in mind.
ReplyDeleteI received an EQ rating of "Slightly above avg"... with room to grow!
ReplyDeleteOf the four major aspects, I believe having that sense of Self-Awareness is the most important, in that you need to be able to tune into and understand yourself before anything else because knowing yourself will present before you roads in life that are most to your nature. I am reminded of the words inscribed on an Anglican Bishop's tombstone that promotes the idea of self-analysis potentially leading to global change.
Congratulations! I have high emotional intelligence! I believe Self-Awareness is the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. This one aspect feeds all others. If we are not self aware, we look at the world differently. We tend to forget that the world outside of us is colored by our perception of it. I believe we are creating the world we see... therefore being self aware is essential. If we know that we are feeling a certain way, we can avoid trying to make someone else responsible for our stuff. We can deal with people as they are... instead of as we are. I think being self aware is important in every aspect of life, which are all fed by emotions. Love!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! You have high emotional intelligence.
ReplyDeleteIn all honesty I cannot say I am surprised. I think my childhood was my main contributing factor. I grew up in a broken abusive household, my mother took my brother in the middle of the night and escaped. She brought me up and I have her to thank for who I am today.
Congratulations! You have high emotional intelligence.
ReplyDeleteOf the 4 choices I feel like self awareness is the most important skill in living a successful life because I believe its the first step to take to achieving the others. To have self management you'd need to be aware of how you are feeling and why. You can have all the social awareness you want but without self awareness I don't know how you could apply it, and the same with social management. I think self awareness is the starting step to success.
I really enjoyed Dr.Goleman's explanations about our brains and how they have developed from survival tactics.
DeleteYou have slightly above average EQ... I believe social awareness would be more important in living a successful life. You must be in tune with your surroundings and that should definitely include the people around you. It gives you better sense how to behave or what to say in certian situations.
ReplyDeleteI have an above avergae eq level. the four choices are very important but i think that self awareness is the most important because you have to be self help yourself before you can help anyone else.
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