Love Addicts Quiz
Watch "The Brain in Love" video and take the Love Addicts Quic at the links above and see if you are a love addict. Now that we know that love creates dopamine in the brain similar to many drugs like cocaine and meth, we can now understand how many can become addicted to being in love.
Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not? Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.
It seems like everyone was created for love. At least I think that it seems that we are literally hard wired, scientifically, physiologically, biologically and genetically speaking, for...love. But I am not sure why there seems to be a difference in the level of drive or intensity behind love. Perhaps that can be effected by personality, temperament or external factors like development, self-esteem, attachment styles...? Clearly the opposite is true. Meaning, the level of love we have (enough or lack of), seems to effect development, attachment, self-esteem, etc.
ReplyDeleteOr, I guess would be related to the biology of it. What is the biology behind a "drug" addict? If you take away the drug and can replace it with genuine love, would the biology be the same? There is some need that is sought and must be met. As there are physiologically biological levels (dopamine) effected. That's amazing! Maybe genuine love cannot be fulfilled until genuine identity is satisfied.
I think it might just be more based on the kind of person we are, our personality, our experiences, and how we react to certain things.
ReplyDeleteI believe some fall in love and become addicts because it fills some type of void, whether neglect or poor self esteem, etc., in their lives. I also believe the word love is used so loosely when it comes to many relationships, meaning some are not in love at all, maybe a strong lusting or infatuation. I believe the addiction may be related to a persons definition or understanding of love. It can differ from person to person and so does the level of need for it. Some people are looking for someone to compliment their lives, to enhance it and so their likelihood to become addicted could be considerably less, if any. These people may want someone to share a life they already enjoy as oppose to looking for someone to fulfill it.
ReplyDeleteLove has lost its meaning over time. I think today we interpret the word "love" as not being alone. I know many people who hate to be alone and engage in relationships just to be with someone but call it love. After getting married and having a child love took on a whole different meaning for me. Something I had never truly experienced before. I am addicted to love, from my son, my day isn't complete if I dont hear him tell me he loves me. So I think it varies from person to person.
ReplyDeleteTrue Love...........yes it still exists yet I feel that in our days now, love is being confused with lust or infatuation. People are quicker to get "involved" and are not allowing their relationships to build/grow. We are born to love though some find it hard to express this and others become addicted.
ReplyDeleteWell I didn't see this until this morning, so I am replying late. I think I answered more than a couple of the questions on the quiz "yes," so I guess this would qualify as a love addict. I do think love is the most important thing, but not just romantic love, but also love for the universe and all life therein. Most significantly, I think love of the self is extremely important. I also think type of love... or lack of it is evident when choosing a partner. I think the less we love ourselves, the more likely we are to settle or stay with someone who doesn't make us happy. i think whether or not a person becomes a love addict has to do with the sum total of their experience so far. If we are looking for someone to make us "whole" it is likely we will find ourselves in a situation where we can be considered addicted to love. But if we know we are whole within ourselves we will be open to a partner that compliments us, challenges us, brings out the best of who we are. Love!
ReplyDeleteI also didn't see this until today. I think love is a part of the spirit and not so much a part of the flesh of a person. We can measure the effects that love has on the body, like higher or lower dopamine and other brain chemicals, but I believe the true essence of love is that fire we feel in our bones that Helen Fisher talks about in the poem from the video. I answered "yes" to quite a few of the questions qualifying me as a love addict. We probably are biologically wired to love a significant other, without a mothers love for her baby the species wouldn't perpetuate; But maybe it's our experiences in society that make us choose our significant other as your son/daughter/husband/wife over another or maybe you find it appropriate to only love yourself. I feel I can’t get out of love alive.
ReplyDeleteI think that certain people become love addicts because of maybe the way that they were raised? They didn't get the love that they desired as a child so they are trying to make up for it or don't know how to respond properly to love. Not everyone is the same though. Different people just respond and react to different things in different ways. And to some people I imagine they don't see being a love addict necessarily a bad thing, it just depends on the person and their partner. Each relationship is different.
ReplyDeleteI originally thought I wasn't going to be "addicted." But I found myself relating to a few of these. Some are a bit extreme I must say, but I do very much the "in love" feeling and tend to seek it out.
ReplyDeleteI think love is super important cause anyone can love but it depends on who they are and who they are loving. I don't look at it as a drug but as us being human yes some people can take it further then it needs to be.
ReplyDeleteI think that some people become addicted to falling in love because they like the feeling of being wanted. I think it might have to do with family issues, for example daddy issues. th high of being wanted they just keep wanting to find it more and more. I think that biology and self esteem matters but only to the people that are not already addicited to falling in love.
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