Tuesday, July 9, 2013

What is Your Love Language? Blog #9 Due July 16th before class

With more than 30 years of experience as a marriage counselor, Dr. Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages has helped couples at every stage of marriage and at pivotal points in their relationships. After many years of counseling, Dr. Chapman noticed a pattern: everyone he had ever counseled had a “love language,” a primary way of expressing and interpreting love. He also discovered that, for whatever reason, people are usually drawn to those who speak a different love language than their own. Of the countless ways we can show love to one another, five key categories, or five love languages, proved to be universal and comprehensive—everyone has a love language, and we all identify primarily with one of the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.


Since The 5 Love Languages® debuted in 1992, over seven million copies have been sold, making The 5 Love Languages® a perennial New York Times bestseller.
1) Find out what Love Language you speak at : Love Language Test
2) Blog about what Love Language you speak and share with us an example of either how you showed someone you loved them using your "Love Language" or how you knew that someone cared about you by what they said or did through their "Love Language".

11 comments:

  1. Your Love Language Personal Profile:
    9 Quality Time
    8 Words of Affirmation
    7 Acts of Service
    3 Receiving Gifts
    3 Physical Touch

    I would say that this is pretty accurate. I love ;) quality time. But, I also enjoy speaking genuine encouraging words to someone, serving them, making them a special gift and then giving an unexpected kiss.

    Recently, I had an idea to make my friend's baby a "pillow blanket". My 6 yr old niece wanted to help, and since I love spending time with her, I said sure. She tried her best to help and would occasionally make comments requesting the leftover material for the fabric I purchased. As it turns out, the gift better suited my niece, so at the end of the project, I surprised her with it. She was happy and so was I! :)

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  2. My dominant language appeared to be words of affirmation with quality time next and then physical touch. Overall, I would have to agree with this. I am someone who appreciates when the energy and time that goes into something is acknowledged although, it is not done for the acknowledgment and so I have the tendency to give that extra "thank you" or "good job" to others. Recently my son decided he wanted to work on his bicycle, change the tires, fix the chain etc. Considering most young people don't want to ride bikes anymore, I was very pleased. After being in the garage for hours he asked if I would be interested in helping. I agreed. We got the bike up and going. I was so proud of his sticking with this and then asking for help when he became stuck. I told him later those are attributes that make good men. He was so proud of himself and couldn't wait to share with his dad. In his words "YES"!

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  3. 9 Physical Touch
    8 Words of Affirmation
    7 Quality Time
    3 Acts of Service
    3 Receiving Gifts

    I love touch, nothing in this world bring me closer to my wife. And it doesn't matter what it is, I can be giving her a foot massage or back massage and I am content, even if I am the one giving. I have always been that kind of person and I am not too sure as to why. At the same pace, I need positive affirmation, I eat it up. It makes me feel good about what I have done and I will strive for that.

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  4. Your Scores
    10Words of Affirmation
    6Quality Time
    3Receiving Gifts
    2Acts of Service
    9Physical Touch

    I would say this is pretty right on. I love to have verbal encouragement. I didn't find it very easy to come by growing up. It was there, but not in my everyday life. I try to tell the people I love and anyone else for that matter, all of the wonderful things that make them so very important in my life. Each person is doing their best, I truly believe no one is trying to cause pain. Maybe if we were more often reminded of our amazing capacity for joy and love and kindness, we wouldn't need to be...lol... Love!

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  5. My primary was quality time, which I can see. I like spending quality time with people. When I try to do something special for someone, I usually spend time with them doing stuff they like, or taking them somewhere where they would enjoy themselves.

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  6. 10 Physical touch, 9 Words of affirmation, 5 Quality time, 4 Arts of service and 2 Receiving gifts...I am a touchy, feeling person. I love giving hugs (part of my culture, yes) but also, I know that a smile and a hug go a long way. I also love to give mini massages....knowing the relief that person gets when I "de-stress" their neck and shoulders is satisfying to me. I also wonder if that's because I wish I could receive a good massage when I'm feeling tense?? Either way, I am one to always extend a touch to a back, arm, or hand. As for words of affirmation, who doesn't enjoy a compliment or praise? I love to hear it but I especially love to give praises. I love to encourage those around me. I just finished being part of Vacation Bible School last week and gave many praises to the little children. To see their faces light up brings great satisfaction to me.

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  7. 10 Physical Touch
    6 Words of Affirmation
    6 Quality Time
    5 Acts of Service
    3 Receiving Gifts

    To me being touchy with someone is the only way to be genuine. I believe body/nonverbal language over the English/verbal language any day and everyday. Its the hardest for me to fake so I guess that's why I trust it to be the most honest and the most meaningful. Anywho,I have a friend Miahnna that is most defiantly a gift giver. the latest gift I got from her was actually composed of several little gifts. I was happy because I liked the gift and felt grateful for being in her thoughts, but confused because there wasn't any occasion and almost felt guilty to indulge. I asked her why, and she said just because she was out buying a gift for someone else's birthday and thought of me and didn't want me to feel left out. I told her she really didn't have to do that, she knows but we both know that wont stop her. she's always listening out for good gifts ideas.

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  8. My primary love language was Quality Time. I would have to say thats pretty accurate, I prefer to spend my time one on one with someone rather then with a group of friends. I find its easier to bond and connect and I can generally guide the conversation where I want it going a little bit easier and I like feeling that control. My second love language that I got was gifts, who doesn't like gifts? It's physical evidence that someone cared enough about you to spend their money on you just to make you smile.

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  9. Your Scores
    7Words of Affirmation
    8Quality Time
    1Receiving Gifts
    3Acts of Service
    11Physical Touch

    So appearantly I'm a touchy guy haha. I do enjoy contact with someone who I am close to and as far as quality time and words of affirmation, they are definitely high priority with me in relationships.

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  10. 8. Quality time 2.Physical touch 3.Acts of services 4.words of affirmation 7. receiving gifts. I love quality time with my loved one and it is so important.

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  11. 10Words of Affirmation
    6Quality Time
    3Receiving Gifts
    4Acts of Service
    7Physical Touch
    I think my score were pretty accurate i loved to be told how much a person loves me. My boyfrind knows my love laugue so to be sweet he'll send my text telling me how much he cares.

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